From midnight is breaking every record in the book to have the most anticipated tour with Ticketmaster on the floor of Congress, there’s no denying that it’s the year of Taylor Swift. Of course, 2023 belongs to him – the rest of us are here too. So when news broke last week that she and her longtime boyfriend Joe Alwyn had officially split, my Swiftie heart sank. Not because this proves that true love doesn’t exist, or because it means that every word exists. A lover is a twisted lie. Instead, I don’t want the world to overshadow anything else he’s doing. I feel sorry for my gal. Breakups are impressive no matter the situation, but dealing with it in front of millions of people while on one of the top tours of all time? That is, for lack of a better phrase, some heavy shit.
So instead of being one more voice on the internet wondering how, why, where, and when the breakup happened, let’s take the opportunity to learn from the situation at hand and let Taylor Swift live in peace, let’s we will-? Here are some relationship lessons we can take away from the breakup, so we can all deal with a little bit of good and a lot of heartbreak in our lives and realize that life is over if you are no longer with that person. imagination is your end game. In Taylor Swift’s words, it would have been fun if Joe Alwyn was ‘The 1’, but it’s okay if he wasn’t.
1. Separation does not invalidate the love you shared
What is happening King of my heart, Daylight, Sweet Nothingand invisible string (besides singing some God Taylor love songs) all together? Joe Alwyn inspired them. One of the biggest reactions the world has to their separation is that they don’t believe that a couple who have loved each other with all their hearts for so long will end. I disagree—that’s a completely understandable reaction. It’s hard for me to wrap my head around the idea of writing “All these people love for show, but I’ll die for you in secret” about someone and not marry them.
But that doesn’t mean that all the love they share isn’t real or that it’s a waste of time. He especially It doesn’t mean that love should be forgotten – I’ve seen a lot of videos on Twitter of people taking it away A lover album from their Spotify favorites. Even if your relationship is coming to an end, especially if you have been together for a long time, all the love between you two is still real, beautiful, and something you are lucky to see. Don’t tell yourself that none of it matters—look back on it happily. Separation is only the end of a love story, it is not a sign that it is not important. So I don’t know about all of you, but I’m still going to scream with joy A copy of the book knowing that Taylor meant every word and was grateful that he met someone who felt the same way.
2. No matter how long you’ve been together, you can still grow apart
It was reported that Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn have been together for more than six years, which really adds to the shock of the breakup. Obviously, the longer you spend with someone, the harder it is to imagine you’re dating them. My friends and I have cried hard over flings that lasted 3 months (while listening to Taylor’s music to cope, I might add), so going our separate ways after so many years was a tough pill to swallow. But just because a relationship lasts a long time doesn’t mean it’s meant to last forever. There is no way you can get past the magic that is giving you explosive problems. Things can change for a million different things at any given time – and that’s okay.
Create yourself six years ago. Are you single now? Perhaps not. There’s a good chance you’re a completely different person. We are changing! A healthy relationship is one that allows you to grow as a person even when you share your life with another person, and sometimes personal growth means growing outside of your partner. Our priorities, values, goals, and needs change over time, so if those things no longer match in your relationship (this goes for friendships, too), it is not a sign of failure. It shows that you have grown as a person and are true to yourself. Let that be the silver lining.
3. Your privacy is sacred
Of course, The average gal doesn’t have to worry about the millions of people around the world giving their two cents on their splits. But we can still note some things about how Taylor Swift handled the situation in public. Long story short, isn’t it. Both she and Joe have not spoken about the news, which is not controversial because they have always maintained their relationship. Regardless of whether your relationship is low or everyone and their mom knows you two are together, taking the time to organize and heal yourself in private is very important. This doesn’t mean you should stay to yourself or not tell anyone about it (plus, Taylor is on a stadium tour as we speak). Talk to people you love and trust, but don’t let people’s irrational opinions stop you from healing.
Especially if the two of you have been together for a long time, people will have opinions about it—that’s inevitable. Put yourself and your needs first this time, and don’t give those who don’t need you a chance to ruin that. Take it off social media and negative group chats to protect your peace – you’ll thank yourself in the end. As Taylor said this is not clear Paris“Secret sign on the door, on each other, on the whole world.”
4. You can still be happy while you are healing
Dealing with a breakup is not easy, especially in a long-term relationship with someone you love. Treatment is different for everyone, but one thing is true for everyone: You can still be happy with the process. Many thought that Taylor would put some on the front for the rest of her tour, “pretending” she was happy to be there and hiding in the shadows when she wasn’t on stage. . No! Our girl has been spotted out and about with friends in NYC, shooting music videos, and slaying her show since the news broke. Obviously, we don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, but from what I gather, this is the verdict: Yoyou still need to live your life and allow yourself to be happy while you heal.
Not every day will be good – some will feel unbearable. But if you put your energy into your friends, your family, the things you love to do, and loving yourself and who you are becoming as much as you can, there is still the ability to have great joy in it. As Taylor Swift herself once said, “There will be happiness after you leave.” And he made a point.