Maybe you have read The Secretlisten to podcasts like Gabby Bernstein’s Dear Gabby or Lacy Phillips Expand, or go on a TikTok #manifestation binge. You may, at some point, have heard horror stories about people manifesting their dream job, financial success, new home, or even their partner. love. Even celebrities like him Ariana Grande, Drakeand Oprah has spoken (or sung, in the case of our girl Ariana) about the power of expression. So why not control this energy in the bedroom?

Before we get into that, let’s prepare for a quick second. If you don’t know the display, it’s a practice dates back thousands of years it can be found in various ancient practices and teachings, including Buddhism and Christianity. In fact, the Buddha’s famous saying, “all we are is because of what we think,” hits the nail on the head in defining the show. Advanced Akashic Record Reader and Akashic Breathing Trainer Krista Rauschenberg defines expression as “the act of removing barriers, if limiting beliefs, stereotypes, and/or negative thoughts toward ourselves and others.”

The *most* important thing to remember is that exposure takes work. It is, after all, yes behavior it’s not magic. “Everything we show always works and we get it,” Rauschenberg explained. The good news is that it’s a habit we can all learn, and often, the results can be the same magic. I don’t know about you, but a better sex life is worth less work, IMO. sold? Let’s begin. Scroll on for expert-approved tips on how to manifest a better sex life.

Know yourself

Thinking and teacher reflection Efia SulterThe process starts with knowing yourself, who you want to be, and what your values ​​are. Although many people skip this step and go straight into goal setting, Sulter believes that the process of self-discovery is very important because it keeps you grounded. be (when) a challenge comes. In this case, you will want to know yourself in the bedroom. “Whether you’re single, dating, or in a relationship, improving your sex life starts with you,” says Sulter. Amen to that, right?

Ask yourself these questions: What is your relationship with sex? What do you want and need? What turns you on? Not sure? You can learn too many about yourself through your personal interests. “If you make your pleasure and orgasm your work, then you can create an environment and a kind of relationship that will allow and support it,” explained Rauschenberg. Sulter dedicates all of her Sundays to alone time, “taking advantage of (her) space with candles and listening to (her) ‘seduce myself’ playlist while she dances.” around (her) bedroom in (her) underwear.” (*cancels Sunday plans*)

Look back at the past

It is also important to reflect back on past experiences, because all of these things affect who we are now. Rauschenberg reminded us that “the pain, shame, and heartbreak we carry, including beliefs from religious or family beliefs about the meaning and value of sex, can create obstacles to true sexual connection and happiness. ” We will take the time to unlock these barriers to open up opportunities for new, better health experiences.

Looking back on past experiences can also help you decide what it is you want. What experiences do you want to create more of? Which one do you want to leave? “Although your sex life may not be where you want it to be, you may be feeling those feelings now, when you act from there, the magic begins to do,” Sulter said. If this part of self-discovery and reflection makes you feel frustrated or angry, he recommends “taking some time to be careful in marriage.” “It doesn’t seem worth it, but trust me on this,” he said.

Be clear about your goals

Well, now is the time to set those goals. Once you reflect on the past and get to know yourself on a deeper level, you’ll have a clearer idea of ​​what your healthy sex life (and feelings) looks like. Sulter suggested scripting, or “writing your future dreams in the present,” exactly what you want your sex life to be like. He advises, “Talk about those feelings, because that’s what helps you change from looking for something to make it happen.”

As we said, manifestation requires action, and “when you’re clear on what you really want, it’s easier to open up your dialogue with others and begin to slowly make changes,” said Sulter. Knowing what you want to see and what you want to feel more of is key in showing. Set those goals and “choose a partner who supports this in you and you in them,” Rauschenberg said.

Gather your wishes

After you find the effects you want, start applying them. “When you can access and hold that state, you show the universe, ‘More of this!'” Sulter explained. This show practice will help you attract experience to keep you in that state.

Manifestation is an act of the mind, so depending on any event will help you make this connection. That could mean journaling, breathing, meditation, exercise, mirror work, or just going outside for a walk without your phone. As you wrote for your presentation in the present time, take action influence it is now, too.

Experiments with crystals and oils

“Making stones and aromatic oils will encourage you to use your senses,” Rauschenberg said, which is an instant ticket to the show. Sulter recommends rose quartz, known as the love crystal, and she suggests “picking a scent or crystal that you’re attracted to, and looking at its properties to see what leads you there.” .” I began to dip my toes into the crystal world and was drawn to an orange-red-brown colored stone, later learning that it was Carnelian, a stone that is said to boost sexual energy and improve your sex life by activating the sacral chakra. . Agate, citrine, goldstone, and orange calcite are also known for improving sex, love, and intimacy.

Essential oils can be used to enhance your sexual experience with yourself, with your partner, or in your visualization and practice. Sulter suggests, “lovingly massage oil into your body starting at the feet, slowly working your way up to the head.” You can use almond, grapeseed, or coconut oil—or whatever oil takes your fancy.

Make it a habit

The power of these tools will grow exponentially if you incorporate them into your system. “Having a strong relationship with your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies requires daily practice,” Rauschenberg emphasized. The more you engage in these practices, the more results you will see, and then it will start to feel like magic. “When you start making your daily energy a beautiful habit, it has the power to change your whole world,” Efia said from experience. He uses these tools to manifest the life of his dreams and to help his clients do the same.

While making it an important habit, Sulter said that “there are certain times of the year that some feel more powerful than others, like the new moon for setting goals and the full moon for letting go.” and letting go.” So if you’re looking for an excuse to get started, check out the upcoming Full Moon or New Moon. Rauschenberg also suggests going through your astrological chart and working with a professional to find out “where your Sun, Moon, and Ascendant live, among other things” will help you improve your manifestation practice. And remember, it’s up to you to decide what time works for you. You are in control of your presentation, and your thoughts can become your reality.

By knowing yourself, reflecting on the past, creating your goals, focusing on what you like, and creating daily rituals, you can manifest the sex life you really want.