You win some, you lose some. And if you’re with me right now, I’m going to go ahead and assume you’ve found yourself in what TikTok likes to call “flop time,” which refers to a time when someone experiences failure. . -whether it is big or small enough for you to see. Although the size of the flop doesn’t really matter, how it can make you feel, no matter how big or small, can hurt you and make you realize how the hell you’re going to bounce back. back and forth as a person. great work.
But hey, without constant failure, how can we learn and grow? It’s a natural, albeit annoying, part of life that we all go through and must go through again. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to avoid failure and become stronger than before, and we share them in a step-by-step guide.
How to bounce back from failure: A step-by-step guide
Give yourself a break
First things first: Take a deep breath and give yourself grace. Failure does not mean you are a failure. Read that again. If you fail to achieve your goals, don’t let that lead you to fear that you won’t be able to reach them. If your situation surprises you or you feel disappointed, that’s fine, but don’t beat yourself up about it. Take this time to rest and reflect so you can come back stronger than ever.
Find a course
I know the last thing you want to do is spend time finding light in a situation that isn’t ideal, but the truth is that there really is a silver lining; there’s a lesson (or two or three) that you can take away from a bad situation. Whether you know that some experience led you to where you are now or you believe that what happened has nothing to do with you, I ask you to use this as an opportunity to learn from it. But don’t be afraid to dig deep and be uncomfortable doing so. Maybe this means you learn more about yourself, someone else, your job, or something else entirely. Either way, the lessons you learn now will help you (forgive me for sounding like a professor using too many clichés) to be successful in the future.
Create a plan for moving forward
Nothing changes if nothing changes. Harsh, I know, but once you’ve taken time to reflect on what happened and what you can learn from it, there’s no point in dwelling on the past. Instead, start creating a plan.
To begin, ask yourself these questions: How can I achieve my goals differently knowing what I know now? What kind of support do I need that I didn’t have before? How can I avoid the things that hindered my success in my first time? Next, think about ways you can catch yourself: schedule a check-in yourself on your calendar, tell a friend about your plan, or keep a record.
Now, write your new plan, including as much or as little detail as you want. This could look like a written step-by-step plan with a check-in point, a new vision board, or a goal stuck on your mirror to remind yourself what to do each day towards your goal. It doesn’t matter if it’s written down or in your head. The only thing that matters is that you do what works for you—otherwise, you’ll find yourself in the same situation as before.
Take small steps towards your goals
You may feel like you are behind because you are starting with your goals or making your plans completely. That’s normal, but the truth is that you’re not behind and you don’t need to run; everything happens in its own time. So don’t waste time trying to ‘find out,’ instead, focus on the small steps you can take to achieve big things.
For example, if you want to start working out more and “fall off the wagon,” there is no point in going to the gym twice a day for two hours each to make up for the free time. Start small and commit 2-3 days a week for 30 minutes, when you can stick to that, you can adjust your exercise routine. Jumping in too quickly can make us tired, and that’s what we want to avoid if we’re trying to make long-term changes for the better and avoid failure.